Taking Life by the Raines

I booked a river jump suite in Mexico a year and a half in advance. Paid extra to upgrade. Agreed to sit through a 90 minute timeshare presentation to make it work. And when I checked in, they gave me a different room.What happened next is not my finest moment.In this episode of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi gets real about a sin she thinks a lot of us struggle with and rarely admit: entitlement. She just got back from Mexico where she was convicted — hard — about the way she showed up when things didn't go as planned. She shares the full story, what it cost her spiritually, what she learned about the difference between entitlement and healthy self-worth, and how she is recalibrating going into this next season.This one is for anyone who has ever let a disappointment turn into a full-blown attitude and known in the moment that they were going too far but just could not stop.In this episode:• The river suite story: booked it, paid for it, didn't get it, and completely lost her witness• The book How to Raise Grateful Kids in an Entitled World and why it convicted her about herself, not her kids• When you're so far in you can't back down — and why it's never too late to stop• Her friend who is still building her faith and why Brandi failed her on this trip• Entitlement is a fine line: where healthy self-worth ends and entitlement begins• Riley at the nail salon: teaching her daughter to ask for what she wants with grace• Sugar goes farther than salt — always lead with grace and kindness• The smiling-on-the-phone sales lesson and what it taught Brandi about energy• The goal is not to expect less — it is to contribute as much as you hope to receive• Holy Spirit, activate: how to hand over the moment when you are too far in to back up• Agape on her wrist and what she forgot to look at all week in Mexico• Practicing gratitude is not about accepting less — it's about seeing life in a God light📖 The book referenced in this episode: https://a.co/d/05BAL6luNew episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #entitlement #gratitude #christianwomen #faithjourney #mompreneur #holyspirit #womenempowerment #millennialmom0:00 Today's topic: entitlement and a heavy conviction0:31 Call yourself to the carpet — do a self audit0:56 Brandi's intro and where she is right now in life2:29 Blessed but overwhelmed — and what that even means2:49 No notes today — going from the hip and the heart3:12 The book: How to Raise Grateful Kids in an Entitled World4:02 The hotel example from the book and what it triggered5:10 The river suite: X Grotte Mexico, a year and a half of planning6:19 The voucher, the upgrade, the timeshare presentation they agreed to6:48 Paying $5,000 and showing up to the wrong room8:10 The oceanfront suite they were given instead8:52 River suite with two double beds — and Brandi is not happy9:11 She starts off kind and then goes wrong10:26 The hotel comes back: the manager, the resistance, the cold shoulder11:12 Choosing the river suite with doubles over the king with pool12:07 Her friend's situation: room not ready, maintenance excuse, and the truth13:39 Allowing it to fester for 24 hours on vacation13:54 They weren't doing maintenance — they were filming a commercial14:18 The drone outside the balcony in a towel moment16:00 I acted a fool and let it ruin part of the trip19:00 Entitlement in everyday moments: grocery pickup, overcooked steak, cold coffee21:25 When you know you should stop and you just cannot22:17 Holy Spirit activate: it is never too late to hand it over22:38 Agape on her wrist and what she forgot to look at22:56 She repented to her friends and to God24:54 Recalibrating: where are you acting entitled right now25:32 The nail salon: Riley, the cat eye nails, and a teachable moment29:19 Teaching Riley to ask for what you want and meet rudeness with grace30:04 The smiling-on-the-phone sales lesson and what it taught her about energy31:39 Sugar goes farther than salt — always32:36 Two steps forward: tolerate disappointment better and practice gratitude33:14 High expectations are okay — the goal is to contribute as much as you hope to receive34:02 Holy Spirit activate in the moments you feel entitled35:18 We can do better — closing call to gratitude and gracePowered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

When Brandi quit her job in 2017, she was pregnant with her second child. Casey was a non-rate in the Coast Guard making the least amount of money possible. They lived in a tiny apartment in Pensacola they called the Raisin Box. And not a single person in her life was willing to look her in the eyes and say: do it. It is going to be okay.So she did it anyway.In Episode 10 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi is talking directly to the person who is struggling to keep going. The one who is distracted, comparing herself, and unsure whether what God called her to is even real. The one who is waiting for someone to tell her it is okay to take the leap. Brandi is going to be that person today.She talks through quitting her job, the Lira hair launch, being delusional enough to believe before it happens, why consistency beats talent every single time, and what ten years of ordinary moments have built into something only God could have designed.In this episode:• Quitting her job pregnant with no safety net and nobody telling her it was okay• Why consistency will take you further than any talent you have• You have to be delusional enough to believe it before it happens• The difference between fake it till you make it and embodying the habits of success• You will be the only thing that stops you — not the market, not the algorithm• Why she hid her business milestones and stopped celebrating her own success• Scarcity mindset, therapy, and rewiring her relationship with money• God will give you the tools, the money, and the strength — if it is His will• If it feels forced, it is probably not for you — here is how to tell the difference• Launching Lira: the hair company and what Lira means in Hebrew• Your future success is built on ordinary moments, not one big breakthrough• Stop comparing your process to someone else's callingNew episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #consistencyovertalent #doit scared #faithandbusiness #christianwomen #mompreneur #womenentrepreneurs #personalgrowth #faithjourney0:00 Consistency will take you further than any talent0:52 Welcome: Brandi introduces herself and the Lira hair launch1:59 Speaking to the person who is struggling to keep going2:30 The Raisin Box in Pensacola: quitting her job in 20173:56 Nobody was willing to tell her it was going to be okay4:52 I am going to be the one to tell you: do it6:02 Ships in the night with Casey and why she took the leap7:12 The validation you need is already inside you7:55 You will be the only thing that stops you8:48 Be delusional enough to believe it before it happens9:20 Embody the habits not fake it till you make it13:00 Hiding her own milestones and dimming her success15:00 Your calling is not their calling — stop comparing18:00 Scarcity mindset, therapy, and rewiring her money relationship22:00 If it feels forced it is probably not for you26:00 The rolling ball: how to know when God is in it29:45 They are called to something different — let that be on them31:10 Scarcity says this is as good as it gets32:12 God called her to rest and she finally listened32:55 Get consistent with the one thing God is calling you to33:34 Your future is built on ordinary moments not one big breakthrough34:12 Closing: everything you need is already in youPowered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

Have you ever noticed how often women say sorry?Sorry I'm late. Sorry I need help. Sorry for asking. Sorry for being emotional. Somewhere along the way we were conditioned to apologize for taking up space. And in Episode 9 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi is done.This is the list of things she has stopped apologizing for. And she wants you to stop apologizing for them too.She opens with the difference between being kind and abandoning yourself. She talks through protecting her peace, saying no with her chest, outgrowing people and seasons, dimming her ambition because she felt guilty about her own success, and the moment she realized her faith creates a divide and she is okay with that. She closes with Galatians 1:10 — am I trying to win the approval of human beings or of God?In this episode:• Why women are conditioned to over-apologize and over-explain• Protecting your peace is not selfish — it is good stewardship of what God gave you• Not every conversation and not every opinion deserves access to you• No is a full sentence. No explanation required.• Every yes is a no to something else — and that matters• Outgrowing people, places, and seasons — and why it comes with grief• Dimming your ambition because you feel guilty about your own success• What agape love actually means and how it changes the way you serve• Galatians 1:10: am I trying to win the approval of people or of God• Stop making everyone else so comfortable that you live uncomfortably in your own skin• Life is short. You are not promised tomorrow. Say it with your chest.New episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #unapologeticallyme #settingboundaries #christianwomen #noisasentence #protectyourpeace #mompreneur #womenempowerment #galatians1100:00 Cold open: have you noticed how often women apologize0:57 Welcome and today's topic: the things I stopped apologizing for1:38 Empathy as a gift and how it becomes a trap2:54 I will not apologize for protecting my peace3:57 Not every opinion deserves access to you4:45 Saying no without apologizing for it5:52 Every yes is a no to something else7:14 Did God ask you to carry this? Ask before you say yes.7:55 Outgrowing people, places, and seasons10:00 Grief that comes with outgrowing — and why it is necessary12:00 Not apologizing for your faith16:00 Agape: sacrificial love without expectation21:55 What favor from God actually looks like24:10 Not apologizing for being ambitious25:33 Giving other women permission to go after something bigger26:42 Closing: what are you still apologizing for that you should not be28:27 Galatians 1:10: approval of people or of God29:07 Stop apologizing for taking up space — say it with your chestPowered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

When you are a good swimmer, nobody can tell when you are drowning.If that hit you, this episode is for you.In Episode 8 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi gets into something most strong women carry in silence: the loneliness of being the one everyone relies on. The one who has the answer. The one who keeps the schedule, holds the household, leads the team, shows up consistently, and somehow never gets asked how she is really doing.Brandi also opens up about losing Casey's Papa, launching her hair company Lira, the scarcity mindset she has carried since childhood, her ADHD, and what it has taken to finally learn that rest is not a reward — it is a requirement.In this episode:• The loneliness of being the strong one and why people stop checking on you• When you are a good swimmer nobody can tell when you are drowning• Scarcity mindset, ADHD, and the triple threat of being a high-achieving woman• Launching Lira: the hair company backed by the founders of Unique• Why rest is not earned — it is what you achieve from• The self-imposed pressure that does not actually come from anyone else• How Casey told her he has never doubted her — and what that unlocked• Checking on your strong friends: they are probably just surviving• Even Jesus set boundaries, rested, and said no — and we forget that• The GLOW prayer framework: Gratitude, Let it out, Own your desires, Wait• Matthew 11:28 — come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest• Your permission slip to lay it down, rest, and stop being the strong one todayNew episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #thestrength #checkonyourfrends #christianwomen #mompreneur #restisrequired #womenempowerment #faithjourney #millennialmom0:00 Welcome back and who Brandi is1:02 Taking time off: Disney, 30A, and losing Papa2:15 Being the strong one and nobody checking on you3:36 When you are a good swimmer nobody can tell when you are drowning4:40 The loneliness of being the strong one5:32 Showing up for ten years while nobody asked how you were doing6:36 Holding it together with a tiny string7:30 Check on the strong ones in your life8:15 Scarcity mindset and ADHD as superpower and weakness9:27 From 100K to 15 million in sales and still not celebrating10:21 Launching Lira and the negative comments that fired Brandi up11:31 Rest is not earned — it is what you achieve from12:26 Carrying the burden of being the one everyone looks to14:06 Ten years in network marketing and always having the right reaction15:50 It is okay to not be the strong one sometimes16:23 Casey was the sole provider for six years — the role reversal20:18 God rewards you when you take time to rest and process20:46 Even Jesus rested, set limits, and said no21:49 The pressure is kind of made up22:52 Casey said he has never doubted her — and what that changed24:08 Holding it in causes resentment in marriage25:46 Align me Jesus — the prayer that cuts through the noise26:52 The GLOW framework: Gratitude, Let it out, Own your desires, Wait28:10 What this episode is meant to give you permission to do28:51 You can still be the strong one after you rest29:39 Taking a Sabbath feels lazy — but it is obedience30:08 Your permission slip: pause, reflect, and check on your people31:15 Check in on your husband too33:15 Matthew 11:28: come to me all who are weary34:00 Lay one thing down and rest — closing wordPowered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

Here is the truth about growth that nobody posts on social media.It is terrifying.In Episode 7 of Taking Life by the Raines, Brandi gets into the biggest transitional period of her career and her life. Since January her nervous system has been in fight-or-flight mode. She is launching a hair company. Her supplement company is dropping four new products and exploring a major partnership. And the platform she has built her entire career on, network marketing, is being reinvented from the ground up.This episode is for every woman in a transitional season who is scared to take the next step. The woman who sees people succeeding online and assumes they have it figured out. They do not. Brandi does not either. And she is showing you what it looks like to keep moving through it anyway.In this episode:• The CEO meeting in Utah that changed everything• Komigo becoming Curated: what the rebrand means and why Brandi is all in• Launching a hair company and four new supplement products simultaneously• What network marketing is being replaced with and why Brandi is not walking away• Imposter syndrome: the world's worst case of it and why every successful person has it too• High performers are just as scared as you. They have just figured out how to keep moving.• Motivation is a feeling. Discipline is a decision. The difference matters.• God will close the door if you are not meant to walk through it, and sometimes He will not and it becomes a lesson• Peace that makes no sense: leaning into Philippians 4 and faith in chaos• Agape love, sacrificial service, and showing up for others even when you are scared• Big risk, big win or big lesson: you have nothing to loseNew episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.comfear of failure women | imposter syndrome entrepreneur | how to keep going when scared | network marketing rebrand | faith in transition | Christian women podcast | mompreneur mindset | personal growth podcast women | taking the next step in business | Brandi Raines podcast0:00 Intro0:49 Welcome back1:45 Building on social media since 2017: live video, makeup tutorials, and creative outlet2:31 Right now: the biggest transitional period of Brandi's life3:07 Marriage is in a great place. Business is a whole other story.5:19 What is happening right now: new hair company, supplement partnership, Vision Summit5:55 Flying to Utah: Vision Summit January, excited, on an all time high6:22 How Komigo started7:12 Curated: the new platform, new name, what it means going forward7:33 Vision Summit announcement7:55 The private CEO meeting after the Summit8:21 My world was flipped upside down8:54 Network marketing is changing: affiliate marketing, TikTok Shop, coaching competition9:16 I love network marketing: but the industry had to evolve to survive10:25 Vision Summit part two: Curated announced to the field12:20 Fight or flight since January13:43 Creator-led brands: why today's consumer wants what Curated is building14:06 Layering on the supplement company: four new products, peptides, partnership conversations15:55 High performers are just as scared16:26 Opening the Bible every day out loud17:40 Will Smith on failure18:14 Do it until failure: the gym analogy and the burnout set that makes you grow23:54 The world's worst imposter syndrome24:58 Cannot cling to old seasons25:24 Times are changing: how to evolve without losing what you came from27:45 The road less traveled28:05 Ask God for what you need each day28:33 Joy in chaos peace that makes no sense29:12 Peace is not certainty30:01 Close your eyes and ask God for peace in the chaos: He will give it to you30:50 You inspire people just by showing up31:14 Sacrificial love without expectation31:40 Ten out of ten do not get a tattoo in Mexico: the anniversary story32:04 Agape as a model for marriage and for life: servant heart to everyone not just a spouse32:48 Being a light of God through the hard times: if not for yourself then for others33:21 What if you do not fail: what if you fly, what if this is the choice that changes your life34:05 My story is your story37:03 Hard seasons are the soil: where God plants you to grow the next version of yourself37:43 Believe God has got your back: He takes care of the birds, why not you38:42 Closing: #takinglifebytheraines#brandiraines#fearoffailure#impostersyndrome#christianwomen#mompreneur#faithintransition#personalgrowth#womenentrepreneurs#millennialmomPowered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

A year before I got pregnant with Riley, I said out loud that I did not want kids anytime soon. Three months into dating Casey, I was standing in a CVS bathroom with a pregnancy test on my lunch break.Here is the thing about motherhood. Nothing prepares you for it. Not one single thing. And in Episode 6, I am getting into all of it.The unexpected pregnancy I could not tell anyone about for two and a half months while Casey was away at boot camp. The night Casey and I stood in our living room holding Riley and just sobbed. The moment that motherly instinct clicked and I knew I was going to be okay. The way God used my kids to break me free from every trauma I had been carrying.I also talk about something I have never shared publicly: my ADHD diagnosis in ninth grade, being put on 50mg of Adderall a day as a teenager, and then being given Ambien to sleep at night on top of it. How cold turkey stopping when I graduated contributed to my weight gain, my mood swings, and why I started my own supplement company years later. And why, as a mom now, I will never just accept what a doctor hands my kids without asking every question first.I also cover:• How motherhood completely rewires your brain and your hustle• What to do when you feel like you are drowning in the overwhelm• The mom guilt trap and why you have got to stop comparing yourself to other moms• What it means to pour into your marriage while raising kids• The 7-7-12 rule for staying connected to your spouse• How to advocate for your kids when every doctor is pushing medication• Functional mushrooms, holistic pediatricians, and what changed everything for my family• And the word every tired, overwhelmed, doing-her-best mom needs to hear todayNew episodes every week. Subscribe and join us. 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com0:00 Welcome back0:53 Christians are not perfect: social media lies and real redemption1:45 Tonight's topic: motherhood, how it changes you in ways nobody warns you about2:13 One year before getting pregnant: I said I do not want kids2:48 Meeting Casey in March 20153:30 Stone Mountain date night4:02 Growing up with trauma4:51 Mental health then vs. now5:41 What Brandi loves and does not love about today's culture6:02 Casey goes to boot camp6:49 Gina from the office: the first person she told7:08 Keeping it secret for two and a half months while Casey was at boot camp7:59 Cape May, New Jersey: the trip where she finally told him8:38 The whirlwind: young, scared, minimal money, just started dating9:02 When you find your person9:54 You guys are going to be fine10:10 Moving to Pensacola pregnant: God breaking her free from past trauma10:42 What nobody warns you about parenthood11:09 The second night home with Riley: standing in the living room sobbing11:50 The Holy Spirit in that moment12:13 Motherly instinct clicks12:47 The strength motherhood gave her13:07 Wait for the one: why your spouse matters more than you know when kids come13:49 The mental load of motherhood14:09 Speaking to the overwhelmed mom15:06 Your heavenly Father wants to carry the stress: let Him15:35 Coming from trauma16:13 Keeping up with the Joneses17:05 The mental load unpacked35:27 Approaching your spouse for support35:52 Give exact examples36:36 Pouring back into your marriage37:13 The 7-7-12 rule38:12 The car ride story39:10 Becoming roommates with your spouse39:40 Inner healing makes vulnerable conversations possible40:33 Make time for your marriage now40:58 ADHD diagnosis in ninth grade42:26 Prescribed Adderall43:38 50mg of Adderall a day44:26 Then they gave her Ambien to sleep44:51 Cold turkey at graduation45:17 Why she started a supplement company45:43 Holistic pediatrician, blood work, zero Flintstone vitamins46:13 What she wishes somebody had advocated for her47:01 Pushing back on Big Pharma48:38 Small tweaks in diet that transformed her kids49:05 God made you the perfect mother for your children50:07 God slowed them down and gave them babies50:45 From mama heart to mama heart51:38 Closing: finish the Poppimotherhood podcast | becoming a mom changed me | ADHD medication kids | unexpected pregnancy story | mom guilt | holistic parenting podcast | Christian mom podcast | millennial mom | marriage and kids | Brandi Raines podcast#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #motherhoodpodcast #momguilt #christianmom #millennialmom #holisticparenting #adhdmom #marriageandkids #faithjourney Powered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

You think you know me. You don't know this version.In Episode 5 I finally brought on my first guest, my childhood best friend Alexa, the one person on earth who has seen me through literally every season. The bratty middle schooler. The wild high schooler. The girl who should have ended up dead or pregnant but somehow didn't. The woman who couldn't accept a compliment. And the mom and wife I've become today.This one is unscripted, unfiltered, and honestly hilarious. We're telling the stories I have never told. Sneaking to Missouri in the middle of the night and telling our parents we were at Cedar Point. Getting caught by a cop with an expired license at a party and somehow walking away free. The high school sorority that absolutely should not have existed. The things we were numbing and why. The moment Alexa looked at me across a table and thought, "she's not the same girl anymore".And the most important part. The conversation at the end where she tells me what she is most proud of me for. I could not make it through that without crying.If you have a childhood best friend who has seen the full version of you (the one you don't post on social media) this episode is going to hit home.Tag them below. 💜New episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com0:00 Cold open — "I should have ended up dead or pregnant"1:03 Welcome — meet Alexa Rex, Brandi's childhood best friend2:50 What it means to have a friend who has seen every season of your life3:58 First question: what was I actually like?4:47 How they met — competitive dance team in fifth grade6:04 Dance was their home away from home — chaotic backgrounds7:16 How they became close — Katelyn, parties, and dating brothers8:23 Alexa's honest take — "you were a brat, disrespectful to everyone"9:49 Christians who have done dark things — faith without a perfect past12:21 The Missouri road trip — lying to their parents about Cedar Point16:33 Getting caught — parents compare stories, the lie unravels18:38 High school parties, bonding over chaotic home lives20:06 The high school sorority that absolutely should not have existed21:40 "I should have ended up dead or pregnant" — the party bus years22:59 Being taken advantage of at a freshman year party24:04 Numbing everything — what we were really running from25:18 Close calls — guns, cops, expired licenses, and walking away27:56 After high school — Brandi moves to Disney, the friendship ebbs29:19 What Brandi was struggling with that she didn't even realize30:28 Dark times Alexa witnessed — the real picture from the outside32:08 The proud moment — Brandi leaves Michigan for Florida32:59 When Alexa knew — meeting Casey changed everything34:44 Numbing vs. healing — then and now58:01 You don't have to be embarrassed — let go of the guilt and shame59:53 Change is possible — even when people don't believe you yet1:00:12 Last question — what are you most proud of me for?1:00:41 "The mom that you are" — both of them cry1:02:46 Friendships that point you to Jesus — the ones that matter1:04:32 Dark humor, fond memories, and closing laughs1:05:11 Closing — "go hug your childhood bestie"childhood best friend podcast | growing up wild and surviving | women friendship podcast | personal growth story | faith and friendship | Brandi Raines podcast | Taking Life by the Raines | Christian women podcast | millennial mom friendship | real talk women#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #bestfriendpodcast #childhoodfriendship #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #realtalk #faithjourney #personalgrowth

Here is something I don't think people expect me to say. It took me 14 years to actually feel confident. Like genuinely, deeply, not-faking-it confident.The girl you see on social media selling makeup, running a beauty empire, coaching thousands of women? She spent most of her life deeply insecure about her looks, her capability, and her money. She faked confidence so hard that it came across as obnoxious. And she spent years comparing herself to everyone around her while quietly falling apart inside.In Episode 4 I am getting into all of it. How comparison steals your confidence before you even realize it is happening. How growing up Filipino in a predominantly white small town in Michigan left me feeling like the sore thumb in every room I walked into. How a comment about my love handles in middle school sent me to get lipo as an adult. How I spent the early years of motherhood sobbing over my baby's milestones because I was too busy comparing myself to every other mom around me.And the three seasons of my life where I finally proved to myself that I was capable of more than where I came from.Confidence is not something you are born with. It is not linked to money or status or a perfect body. It is something you build. And I am going to show you how.New episodes every week. Subscribe 💜📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: takinglifebytheraines.com0:00 Welcome — diving into confidence after 14 years of building it0:27 What confidence actually is — not what social media says it is1:36 Why she's sharing her insecurities — so you can see yourself2:42 The one thing that stops women from finding success3:46 Her biggest insecurity growing up — her looks4:23 Growing up Filipino in Michigan — looking different from everyone5:56 Third grade gym class — the "Chinese eyes" moment that stuck7:28 The weight insecurity — Hollister jeans, love handles, and competitive dance9:15 How a childhood insecurity led to lipo as an adult10:31 Insecurity 2 — capability: believing where I came from was the ceiling12:00 Insecurity 3 — finances and hiding past-due bills as a kid14:31 What fake confidence looks like from the outside16:20 Comparison — the thief of joy and creator of false reality16:49 Her love-hate relationship with social media18:08 Comparing herself to other moms — the beach condo story19:30 Hudson's milestones vs. her niece — sobbing over a baby who couldn't sit up23:23 Goals set from comparison not calling — retiring Casey before he wanted it27:08 Confidence does not come from other people's perception of you28:25 Motivation vs. discipline — what actually builds confidence over time30:27 Fixate on what God has for you — stop the hamster wheel of comparison31:31 Three seasons that proved she was capable — turning points32:30 Season 1 — moving to Florida in 2011 with $2,000 and a prayer35:02 Season 2 — meeting Casey and breaking the generational mold37:00 Season 3 — 2020, the pandemic, and her business going 10x40:07 U-Haul to Georgia — laying on a mattress and feeling proud41:31 When her confidence finally stopped being a performance43:37 Teaching her kids — don't ask if they like you, ask how you feel44:35 Confidence is not born, it is built — and it comes in seasons45:31 Confidence grows with faith — actionable steps to get there46:54 Closing — it is never too late to blossom into what God is calling youhow to build confidence | comparison and insecurity | confidence for women | self esteem podcast | personal growth women | stop comparing yourself | women empowerment podcast | Christian women podcast | millennial mom podcast | social media and confidence#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #confidence #selfesteem #stopcomparing #womenempowerment #christianwomen #millennialmom #personalgrowth #faithjourney

Here's the truth. Nobody tells you that healing gets worse before it gets better. Like actually worse. You start digging, you start going to therapy, you start facing the things you've tucked away for years and for a minute it feels like everything is falling apart. That's not you doing it wrong. That is literally just how it works.In Episode 3 I'm getting into the stuff the self-help books skip over. The real, messy, uncomfortable truth about what healing actually looks like. I'm talking about learning to lower your expectations for people who have proven they're not capable of meeting them. I'm talking about staying put during hard conversations when every part of you wants to run. About outgrowing friendships you never thought you'd lose. About forgiving people who never said sorry. And about why your triggers in your marriage today are almost always rooted in something that happened when you were a kid.I share the moment in couples therapy that broke my heart and then put it back together. The story of my dad running after our car at McDonald's when I was four years old. What my therapist showed me about my body language and why it was making my husband feel like he didn't matter to me. And how I had to stop praying for healing and start actually participating in it.This episode is for anyone in the middle of it. The hard, unglamorous middle of doing the work. I promise you it's worth it.The healed version of you is going to look back at the younger version of you and say, we did it. 💜New episodes every week. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Taking Life by the Raines:Instagram: instagram.com/takinglifebytheraines/TikTok: tiktok.com/takinglifebytheraFacebook: facebook.com/takinglifebytheraines/📲 Follow Brandi:Instagram: instagram.com/brandirainesbeauty/TikTok: tiktok.com/brandirainesbeautyFacebook: facebook.com/followbrandiraines/About me + my links: msha.ke/brandirainesbeauty_Shop my Komigo storefront: komigo.me/brandi🎧 Listen on Spotify and Apple Podcasts: www.takinglifebytheraines.com0:00 Welcome back — Episode 3 intro0:26 The truth about healing nobody talks about1:47 It gets worse before it gets better — and that's okay3:13 Healing is like peeling an onion — layer by layer4:42 The first step she took — reading her Bible and starting therapy5:12 The wrong therapist — and why you need to vet yours6:21 Starting couples therapy with Casey7:06 The therapist said: you each need to heal separately first7:36 The biggest lesson from therapy — expectations9:27 Lowering your expectations for broken people11:02 Find a spicy marriage counselor who tells you the truth11:43 If your marriage isn't hard, you're not going deep enough14:26 The therapy session that broke her heart — the trash story19:48 Body language as a trauma response22:16 Learning to stay put when you want to run23:11 The McDonald's memory — age 4, her parents divorced25:40 What healing actually looks like step by step28:04 Stop praying for healing and start participating in it29:16 Friendships have expiration dates30:37 Trauma bonding friendships and what happens when you heal32:07 Daddy issues — forgiving what you never had36:32 Therapy gives you the tools — real life is where you use them37:31 Grieving friendships that no longer serve you38:07 Forgiveness is a part of every layer of healing40:10 Forgiving without an apology — how to actually do it42:05 How to have hard conversations and keep the friendship44:22 What healthy boundaries actually look like in real life45:46 You teach people how to treat you47:21 If your friends talk badly about their spouse, that is the enemy49:11 The healed version of you is going to look back and say well done50:07 Where to start if you don't know how to begin healing53:42 Healing your trauma is the best weapon against the enemy54:40 Thank you and closinghealing gets worse before it gets better | childhood trauma therapy | toxic friendships | marriage counseling | forgiveness healing | personal growth podcast women | Christian healing | generational trauma#takinglifebytheraines #brandiraines #healingjourney #childhoodtrauma #marriagecounseling #toxicfriendships #christianwomen #millennialmom #personalgrowth #faithjourney Powered by ATL Podcast Proshttps://atlpodcastpros.com

Here's the reality. When you grow up in chaos, you learn to survive it. And those survival skills, the armor, the walls, the need to control everything, they don't just disappear when you become an adult. They follow you. Into your marriage. Into your parenting. Into your work. Into every single relationship you try to build.
I spent years not knowing that the patterns I was running on were directly connected to what I lived through as a kid. No hot water. Moving every year. Hiding past-due bills in the mailbox. A house in 10th grade with two mattresses on the floor and no fridge. I thought that was just life. I didn't realize until way later that I had built a whole personality around surviving it.
In this episode I'm getting into the stuff I didn't talk about in Episode 1. Not just what happened, but what it did to me on the inside. Why I couldn't accept a compliment. Why I hit $15 million in sales and still felt like it wasn't enough. Why I was a workaholic and calling it a badge of honor when honestly, it was a trauma response. Why I pushed away the people who loved me the most.
God has been so faithful in my healing. Truly. But I also had to do the work, and I want to help you do it too.
You are not alone if you came from chaos. And it does not dictate where you're going. I promise you that.
 
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In this episode:
How growing up in chaos creates toxic patterns in adulthood
Why being a workaholic is actually a trauma response
My scarcity mindset with money and how I rewired it
The "closet clubhouse" I built as a child just to feel safe
Why I could never accept compliments or celebrate my own success
How childhood wounds affect marriage, friendships, and parenting
Breaking generational patterns, because the buck stops here
What therapy taught me and what you can do without it
childhood trauma healing | trauma response workaholic | overcoming childhood wounds | generational patterns | personal growth podcast for women | faith and healing | scarcity mindset money | women empowerment podcast
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